Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Need more patience

So lately I've been a little on edge. I'm sure it has nothing to do with the fact that I'm having a baby in 2 days and I have a toddler going through the terrible two's.  I've worked hard to make sure that I have everything lined up for when I go to the hospital and that the house won't be a total disaster when I get back. I think I have just about everything done there and I'm ready for this little one to join our family. One thing I wasn't expecting was the many opinions on how we're having this baby. Nathan and I elected for another C-section instead of a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean). We did not take our decision lightly and put much thought and prayer into it. I also talked to my Dr. quite a bit about it for a couple of months as I went back and forth. She never pushed me one way or the other, for which I am very grateful. She gave me all the facts, risks, etc. and would tell me it was a personal choice and she would stand by either decision. My decision was based on my pregnancy with Gideon and the answers I received when I prayed. I had a lot of health issues with him and had to be induced early. After 14 hours of labor he ended up being an emergency C-section. I wasn't sure if I would have to go through the same thing with this one and decided on the choice that worked best for us. I know everyone has their own opinion on childbirth, epidurals, C-sections, etc. What I don't understand is why it's anyone's matter but the parents actually having the child. I've had people tell me I'm taking the easy way out for having a C-section. They have evidently never had a C-section or major surgery. I may not have to go through contractions and pushing but the recovery time is much harder and longer. Believe me, I would have loved to have Gideon normally but I was not about to risk his health or life when it was not necessary. Gideon was on his cord and his heart rate would drop each time I pushed. Dr. White told me I could keep pushing but because we didn't know how the cord was getting pinched we couldn't be sure he would get all the oxygen he needed during each contraction or if the cord would even be long enough during birth. That's all I needed to hear. My child's life was more important than a silly scar and healing time. How would I feel if something would have happened to my child when I could have prevented it? I'm grateful for knowledgeable doctors and modern hospitals that were able to ensure the safety of my child.

I'm sure everyone wants what's best for their children and they do what they feel is right. There are many things I see others do that I may think are different or silly but it's not my family or decision on how they raise their children.  I'm not meaning to offend or upset anyone. I just needed my little rant time. I welcome any comments and opinions on the matter but please don't make me feel bad for opting for another C-section.

7 comments:

The Miranda's said...

good luck and I'm glad there are things like blogs so we can rant on about anything!

LeeAnne said...

You have my support 100%. Make sure you call me if you need anything. Good luck on Friday. It will be here before you know it.

Anaise said...

Just get that baby safely here! Thank goodness for the medical technology! Use it or don't as you see fit. And the prayerful decisions are the best ones. Good luck!

Lauren said...

Don't you worry about what anyone else says. This is your baby and you do it your way. You've made the right decision and everything will go well. We love you!

JD said...

If you, Nathan, and the Lord have all reached the same conclusion then things will work out how they are supposed to. You are in our prayers and hope everything goes supurdueper great with the delivery!!!

The Horn Family said...

It's crazy that people think they can interject their opinions on you when you're pregnant. They for some reason feel they can share their opionions about you when you are pregnant. We all have our own ideas, opinions on life and when you are pregnant is not the time for people to be sharing them with you. Just as with everyones opinions, take it with a grain of salt and move one. I try not to let things like that get to me, to the point I have forgotten the conversation by the time I walk away from them. Don't let it stress you out. Just remember how it makes you feel and try not to do it to others.
I hope things go well for you today.

The Harper Family said...

I agree...you did what was best for you, Hazel, and your family. It is totally up to only ya'll. I too do not understand why people think they can force their opinions on pregnant women, or women with brand new babies! I just ignore the advice I don't like. :)